Do you wait to be tapped on the shoulder?
I’m really passionate about seeing women step up, ask for what they want, be clear with their communication and not apologise for being in the way.
It sounds straightforward, but it’s not always! I catch women apologising before they ask their colleagues for something (which is well within their job description) all the time. It goes something like this: “Oh, I’m really sorry, but would you mind getting me those numbers that I asked for yesterday?” We all need to learn to state what we need clearly and not feel any guilt for doing so. Perhaps that request could be rephrased as “I need those numbers that I asked for yesterday please”.
Women often feel that if they’re purposeful and direct in their communication that they’ll feel that they’re being ‘bossy’ or worse still, that others will label them a ‘bitch.’ Untrue! I watch my male colleagues ask for what they need clearly, and no one labels them as difficult.
The other thing I’m passionate about is helping women realise that often we wait to be asked for opportunities. We wait to be tapped on the shoulder, or for the opportunities to fall in our laps. I consider myself one of the most fiercely independent, ambitious and driven people you’re likely to meet, but I’ve done this before a few times.
I was on the board of an entrepreneurial group for four years before someone said to me: “Em, you’d make a great President you know”. It occurred to me that I’d spent the last four years thinking the same, but not communicating that or letting anyone know about it. I was waiting for it to happen to me, as opposed to taking charge and making it happen myself.
In June of this year, we’re working with Dr Lois Frankel – the woman who wrote the bestselling book ‘Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers’. She’ll be presenting for Business Chicks at a seminar in Sydney, and I’d love you to experience her work – I can guarantee you you’ll walk out having learned a bunch of tips that’ll increase your confidence, your communication skills, and ultimately your career success. Get your ticket here.
I really hope to see you there, and that you’ll get your team and colleagues involved, as I really believe that everyone can benefit from Dr Frankel’s teachings.